Parents Who’ve Lost a Baby Understand the Importance of Chrissy Teigen’s Bereavement Photos

Photo credit: Chrissy Teigen/Instagram
Photo credit: Chrissy Teigen/Instagram

From Woman’s Day

Trigger warning: this post discusses infant loss.

Melanie Rodger was a 20-year-old soon-to-be mom living on a military base in Japan with her husband, as excited as anyone would be when they’re expecting. She had enjoyed a textbook pregnancy for 32 weeks, imagining all the future memories she would make as a mom to a newborn son. Then, during a routine OB-GYN appointment, her doctor started to show concern: at 35 weeks pregnant her belly was measuring about the same as it was at 32 weeks. Something was wrong.

“The OB called me on a Friday night, and we had tickets to see the new Harry Potter movie out in town at a Japanese theater,” Rodger tells Woman’s Day. “I remember the phone ringing right before we left and I thought, ‘Who would be calling on six o’clock on a Friday night?’ So I answered the phone and it was the OB I had seen that day and he had told me that they were more concerned than they’d ever been my entire pregnancy.”

Rodger had been diagnosed with “intrauterine growth restriction” — a condition in which a fetus grows smaller than it should be and, as a result, is at higher risk of low birth rate, decreased oxygen levels post-birth, problems handling the stress of labor and delivery, trouble maintaining body temperature, and high red blood cell count. Her doctor told her they would likely induce her at 37 weeks, but not to worry: at most an induction would require a week’s stay at the hospital and some steroid injections for her son so that his lungs could develop. The following Monday, Rodger was induced.

“I remember this rush of excitement, like ‘OMG it’s finally that time to have a baby and he’s going to be here. He’s going to be our baby,'” Rodger says.

Photo credit: Photo courtesy of Melanie Roger
Photo credit: Photo courtesy of Melanie Roger

After 32 hours of labor, baby Bennett was born at 2:00 a.m. on Thanksgiving morning. Rodger wasn’t able to hold him, as he was rushed to the warming table and then quickly to the nursery. But still, she wasn’t worried. “When he was born alive and crying I didn’t think there was going to be any situation when he wasn’t coming home with us,” she says.

30 hours later, baby Bennett died.

So when Rodger saw the pictures Chrissy Teigen posted of her pregnancy and infant loss, she instantly knew how Teigen felt. The helplessness that follows the realization that there’s nothing more the doctors can do. The pain of having all your future plans — all the family outings, birthday parties, and lazy Sundays spent cuddling on the family couch — that you’ve conjured up in your brain suddenly vanish. The devastating emptiness and overwhelming sense of longing that leaves you almost breathless the moment you walk out of the hospital without a baby.

“I saw the first picture she posted, just looking down at her feet

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Chrissy Teigen Breaks Her Silence Following the Tragic Loss of Her Baby Boy

Earlier this month, Chrissy Teigen and her husband, John Legend, shared the devastating news that they’d lost their baby boy, Jack, at around 20 weeks due to complications with his placenta. Throughout her pregnancy Chrissy had been posting regular updates online, detailing the complications she was unfortunately facing.



Chrissy Teigen posing for the camera: Chrissy Teigen has broken her silence following the tragic loss of her baby boy, Jack, in a new moving blog post. She addresses those who questioned her photos


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Chrissy Teigen has broken her silence following the tragic loss of her baby boy, Jack, in a new moving blog post. She addresses those who questioned her photos

When Jack tragically passed, the brave couple also chose to share their grief with the world alongside a series of intimate photos, taken while in hospital. Baby loss awareness charity, Tommy’s, said this can be an important part of the grieving process for parents (in response to trolls leaving cruel messages on Chrissy’s social media accounts). Following that, Chrissy has been relatively quiet online, bar telling fans she and John are ‘quiet but okay’.

Now, the model, cookbook author and presenter has spoken in greater depth about what she’s been going through in a moving blog post. It begins with her thanking everybody for their kind words during this intensely difficult time, and for sharing their own stories too. She adds that notes beginning with ‘You don’t have to respond to this’ were helpful, as she felt quite overwhelmed (but appreciative) of the support.



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Chrissy’s Brave Blog about Losing Her Baby Boy

Speaking about the moment she was told by doctors that her third child would not survive to full term, Chrissy wrote on Medium: ‘After a couple nights at the hospital, my doctor told me exactly what I knew was coming — it was time to say goodbye. He [Jack] just wouldn’t survive this, and if it went on any longer, I might not either. We had tried bags and bags of blood transfusions, every single one going right through me like we hadn’t done anything at all. Late one night, I was told it would be time to let go in the morning.’

Addressing the people who (bafflingly) went out of their way to write nasty messages underneath her personal photos, Chrissy said that John was reluctant to capture their pain at first, but that she knew she ‘needed to know of this moment forever, the same way I needed to remember us kissing at the end of the aisle, the same way I needed to remember our tears of joy after Luna and Miles. And I absolutely knew I needed to share this story.’



a close up of a person talking on a cell phone: Chrissy's Brave Blog about Losing Her Baby Boy


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Chrissy’s Brave Blog about Losing Her Baby Boy

Showing an amazing amount of strength, she added, ‘I cannot express how little I care that you hate the photos. How little I care that it’s something you wouldn’t have done. I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these photos aren’t for anyone but the people who have lived this or are curious enough to wonder what something like this is like.

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Pregnant Sadie Robertson Says She Was ‘Very Sick’ with COVID-19 but ‘Baby Huff Is Doing Great’

Sadie Robertson is on the mend after contracting the coronavirus.

On Monday, the Duck Dynasty alum, 23, shared a photo from her hospital bed, revealing in her caption that “one of the most challenging things” she has faced as of late has been her battle with COVID-19, which made her “very sick.”

“I know everyone experiences covid differently, but wow these symptoms are wild. I’ve definitely struggled through this one!” she wrote. “Thankfully baby Huff is doing great and healthy, and I am now healing as well. I’m no longer in the hospital (this pic was not from today) and I have just about fully recovered.”

Robertson, who is currently expecting her first child with husband Christian Huff, was diagnosed with coronavirus earlier this month.

“I’ve learned a lot and I have been challenged in a lot of new ways,” she said. “I will say my dependency on Jesus has never felt greater in some of the hardest moment of this sickness. I’m thankful I serve a savior who is with me in these moments that feel rather lonely. My heart and my [family’s] heart goes out to everyone suffering with Covid.”

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RELATED: Pregnant Women Seem Unlikely to Pass Coronavirus to Their Babies, Early Studies Show

As the coronavirus continues to spread in the United States, many pregnant women are wondering what they can do to stay as safe as possible and limit their potential for exposure.

In an advisory on their website, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends expectant mothers to be extra vigilant about following existing precautions, as “available data suggest that pregnant women with COVID-19 may be at increased risk for more severe illness compared with nonpregnant peers.”

While “No increase in the rate of mortality has been noted,” the group says that “these data indicate an elevated risk of [intensive care unit] admissions and mechanical ventilation.”

“Pregnant patients with comorbidities such as obesity and gestational diabetes may be at an even higher risk for severe illness consistent with the general population with similar comorbidities,” the ACOG adds.

Huff and Robertson shared their pregnancy news Oct. 4, on their respective Instagram accounts. “SCREAMING WITH EXCITEMENT TO SHARE THIS NEWS! Baby we already adore you,” the mom-to-be captioned a photo of the pair cuddled up on the couch and showcasing their sonogram, in part.

The couple opened up Wednesday on Robertson’s WHOA That’s Good Podcast about learning the good news, with Huff, 22, saying they weren’t “not trying.”  Noted Robertson, “I guess we shouldn’t have been that surprised, but we were super surprised and so I didn’t think I was pregnant at all.”

After she found herself “ravenous” all day and had a vivid dream about being pregnant (with a son!),

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Newborn Baby Found Alive In Morgue Freezer After Being Declared Dead

KEY POINTS

  • The baby was born prematurely at the General Hospital La Margarita in Mexico
  • Doctors declared him dead and the body of the child was kept in the morgue freezer
  • After almost six hours, the child was found crying and moving inside the freezer

A newborn baby was found alive in a morgue refrigerator after hospital staff declared the child dead following his birth. The baby spent nearly six hours in the freezer before funeral home employees rescued him, local media reports said. 

The baby was born prematurely Oct. 21 after just 23 weeks of gestation at the General Hospital La Margarita in the city of Puebla in Mexico. Doctors told the parents the child had died and his body was stored in the morgue refrigerator.

After the parents made the arrangements to retrieve the body to conduct the funeral, a staff member arrived at the morgue and noticed the child was crying and moving, according to Mexico News Daily.

“When we got to remove the body, we noticed that it began to cry and move; the social worker even got upset when we told her he was alive because she said ‘What’s wrong, don’t be liars’ and things like that, So we told the father to approach and he also saw that the baby was crying,” the owner of the funeral home reportedly said.

A video was released by local media showing the baby wrapped in a blue sheet in his father’s arms.

“Here I am; I’m your daddy… hold on, my love,” he said, while filming the child with his cell phone. 

The General Hospital La Margarita, where the baby was born, issued a statement, saying: “The protocols for the extreme premature newborn were applied, but he did not present vital signs, so death was certified. He was transferred to the mortuary area.”

“Upon delivering the body to the relative, the medical and funeral home staff realized that the baby was alive. He immediately received supportive medical care and was transferred to the neonatal intensive care unit,” the statement continued. “The institutional authorities are in constant communication with the minor’s parents to offer them care and the necessary support, as well as timely information on his health status.”

The hospital said an investigation into the case will be carried out by their facility and another by the state’s Social Security Institute ethics committee.

Puebla governor Luis Miguel Barbosa also spoke to local media, saying a criminal complaint must be filed against those responsible for erroneously declaring the child dead.

“If doctors do not have the emotional tranquility to care for such a child and cannot differentiate between whether he is alive or dead, they should ask for a vacation or quit working,” Barbosa reportedly said.

newborn This photo shows the feet of a newborn. Representational image. Photo: Getty Images/Christopher Furlong

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51-year-old mom carrying daughter’s baby as gestational surrogate

Most mothers give their children the gift of life once, when they’re born. But one mom from Illinois is giving her daughter that gift again — by carrying her baby. 

At 51years old, Julie Loving is nearly nine months pregnant as the gestational surrogate for her daughter, Breanna Lockwood. It’s a gift that feels surreal to Lockwood.

After several rounds of IVF and suffering multiple miscarriages, Lockwood’s doctor told her she and her husband might want to look into surrogacy. It was something Loving had been pushing for a while. She even volunteered to be the surrogate, but Lockwood wasn’t sure at first.

“I just kept telling her no and kept turning her down pretty frequently, only because I didn’t think it was a possibility with my mom’s age, and my mom was actually menopausal,” Lockwood told CBS News. “So, as far as I knew about reproductive science, that didn’t add up, that wouldn’t work.”

However, after several tests and exams, doctors determined that Loving was fit to be her surrogate. “I laughed,” Lockwood said.

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When her daughter was struggling with infertility, Julie Loving had been suggesting she look into surrogacy. Now, she’s acting as her surrogate. 

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“It’s true, she thought I was crazy,” Loving said. However, Loving was confident she could carry a baby at 51. “I wasn’t really nervous about it. I’m pretty healthy, so I thought going into it, I’m healthier than I was in my 20s. So I really wasn’t worried about anything.”

Loving is a two-time Boston Marathon runner and a triathlete. She’s had two children of her own and felt sure she could carry another, especially knowing how much it would mean for her daughter.

“I just had this feeling, like she’s been trying for so long, and I just wanted to give her some hope that there’s other options,” she told CBS News.

Through the IVF process, the baby girl she is carrying is genetically Lockwood’s and her husband’s. The only biological connection she has to the baby — besides carrying her — is grandma.

“This is pretty much the closest place this baby could be, rather than my own body, is with her,” Lockwood said.

She has been using instagram to share her journey through infertility, and now surrogacy. She hopes she can connect with other women going through the same thing to let them know they’re not alone. 

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Breanna and Aaron Lockwood’s daughter is due in November. Until she’s born, she’ll stay with her grandma, Julie Loving, who is carrying her as a gestational surrogate.

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“Where there’s a will, there’s a way,” she told CBS News. “Motherhood can come in all forms, whether it’s through IVF or whether it’s through surrogacy or through adoption.”

The Lockwoods’ baby girl is due in November. Until she’s born, she’ll stay with Grandma Loving, who selflessly offered to carry her into the world. 

“We’re just so grateful that we were able to do this. There are some nerves in there, but

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Newborn Baby Wrongly Declared Dead Found Alive Before Burial, In Critical State

KEY POINTS

  • The baby was reportedly born after six and a half months of pregnancy
  • The newborn baby was declared dead and was taken for burial
  • Hospital has launched an investigation into the incident

A newborn baby girl, who was declared dead by a hospital, was found alive before her burial. The incident took place Friday in Bangladesh.

According to a local media report, the baby was pronounced dead at Dhaka Medical College Hospital after she was born prematurely. However, before her burial, the child came back to life and was rushed for treatment at the Neonatal Intensive Care unit at the hospital. The child currently remains in critical condition, The Daily Star reported.

“Her condition is very critical . . . We are trying our level best,” Brig Gen AKM Nasir Uddin, director of the hospital told local media, adding that a four-member team will be conducting an investigation into the incident. The probe will reportedly be led by Dr. Manisha Banerjee, head of the neonatology department.

“We will take action upon receiving the findings,” the director said.

Shahinur Akter gave birth to the child after six and a half months of pregnancy. A doctor declared the child dead and hospital staffers put the baby in an abandoned box of gloves. The staff later asked the family to take the child for burial, a source told local media.

The child had to be moved from one graveyard to another due to the high burial cost which the family could not afford. However, in the second burial ground, as the grave was being dug, the newborn started moving her limbs and showed signs of being alive, the baby’s father, Yeasin Mollah, claimed. The child was then taken back to the hospital.

The DMCH director told local media that the child was put under observation for a couple of hours after being born but was declared dead as there was no pulse.

Newborn In this photo, a premature newborn lies on a cot in the neo-natal ward of the Delafontaine hospital in Saint Denis near Paris, March 19, 2013. Photo: Joel Saget/AFP/Getty Images

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Baby Boomers Use Alternative Medicine

According to a recent study conducted at Ohio State University, about 70 percent of the 50 Plus market use alternative medicine. Funded by the National Institute on Aging, Professor Gong-Soog Hong spearheaded a survey that included almost 900 participants aged 50 and above. 65 percent of seniors who described themselves in poor health said they used some form of alternative medicine they considered either curative or preventive–a higher percentage than any other group.

Baby boomers are searching for other ways to alleviate symptoms such as chronic pain and arthritis, as well as utilizing alternative therapies as preventive medicine. Chiropractic care topped the list with a whopping 43% of respondents, while acupuncture came in last.

Last fall, another survey of baby boomers was conducted by Sorelli B, a national research firm. This particular study showed than more than one third of those surveyed said that chiropractic care prevented the need for prescription drugs and physical therapy. The respondents also believed that chiropractic care helped them avoid back surgery and long, grueling, hospital stays. Close to 60 percent of those surveyed stated they would be willing to petition their insurance companies to include chiropractic as a component of their health care plan even though they were willing to pay for those services out-of-pocket.

The other most popular methods of alternative medicine include massage therapy, breathing exercises, herbal medicine and meditation.

The first study looking at alternative medicine use among seniors with depression finds that close to 20 percent are using gingko biloba, ginseng, St. John’s Wort and other herbal remedies. The surprising findings could cause concern with physicians who treat baby boomers as most patients were unaware of the risks of potential drug interactions.

Helen Kale, M.D., from the University of Michigan says, “The results merit further study and suggest that seniors may have entered the alternative medicine market ina big way, much bigger than we thought.”

Why alternative medicine? Older adults are searching for different kind of treatment to lessen the aches and pains that often come with age. Seniors are reporting problems with daily activities such as carrying groceries, eating or bathing. Moreover, many of them are simply not satisfied with mainstream health care and often have issues with the current state of conventional health care. “Older adults tend to have more chronic illnesses and conventional medicine doesn’t always solve their problems,” says Hong.

In addition, the survey showed that because the treatment of chronic pain is very difficult and demanding, people living in such pain will try everything possible to alleviate it.

According to the American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA), the percentage of the 50 plus market who received a massage from a massage therapist in the past five years has almost tripled. Why do baby boomers get massage? For health reasons, according to the survey. Seniors even indicated they seek massage for health reasons (other than stress relief and relaxation) more than any other age group (41 percent).

The least popular practice of alternative medicine surfaced in the …

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